A Healing Journey
Birth Trauma Counselling
Hello
If you've found your way here, something happened during your birth that you're still carrying.
Maybe it was frightening.
Maybe it didn't go the way you'd hoped or prayed.
Maybe you've tried to make peace with it and found you can't.
Maybe you feel like you shouldn't still be feeling this way - and that thought only makes it harder.
You are not alone in this. And you don't have to keep carrying it.
I'm Hannah, an Independent Midwife and Christian Birth Trauma Practitioner. I support women, their partners and health professionals to gently process difficult birth experiences in a safe and compassionate space.
Here, you will be heard, supported, and guided toward healing — at your own pace, in your own time.
With love,
Hannah
You Were Not Designed to Carry This
Birth trauma is real.
What happened in your birth may have been beyond your control - but you were never meant to carry the weight of it alone, and God does not ask you to.
It doesn't matter whether your birth was medically complicated or straightforward on paper.
It doesn't matter whether other people think you should be over it by now.
What matters is that something in that experience opened a wound that hasn't fully healed.
For women of faith, there can be an added layer to this that is rarely spoken about. The feeling that you should have trusted God more. That your fear was a failure of faith. That you're somehow ungrateful for the baby you have. That prayer should have been enough.
I want to sit with you in that specific place — because I understand it, and because I believe healing is not only possible, it is part of God's care for you.
Many women enter birth with prayer woven through their hopes for the experience.
You may have prayed for peace, protection or a safe and calm birth.
And when things didn't unfold that way, it can leave you carrying questions that feel difficult to say out loud.
Where was God in that moment?
Why did it have to happen like that?
Did I do something wrong?
Sometimes these questions stay buried because it feels easier - or safer - not to open them.
But wrestling with those questions doesn't mean your faith is weak. Often it simply means something deeply painful happened, and your heart is still trying to make sense of it.
In my work with women, I have seen that healing often begins when we stop trying to push those questions away and instead allow them to be gently explored.
Birth trauma doesn't mean your faith failed. It means something hard happened in a moment that mattered deeply to you.
And healing from that experience is not separate from your faith - it can become part of the way God restores what felt broken.
When Birth Doesn't Match the Prayer
How I Work
I offer birth trauma counselling using the TBR 3-Step Rewind Technique, delivered across three sessions either in person or online from the comfort of your own home.
I am the only Christian midwife in the UK offering this service. That means you don't have to leave your faith at the door, explain it away, or work around it. It is welcome here. It can be part of the healing process if that is important to you.
The Rewind Technique works by gently separating the intense emotional response from the memory itself. Over time, this allows you to remember your birth without being pulled back into the fear, panic, or distress of the moment.
Importantly, this process does not require you to retell your birth story out loud, which many women find relieving.
You're not erasing your story. You're changing the way you hold it.
TBR 3-Step Rewind Technique is simple
What Healing Can Look Like
This process isn't about pretending the birth didn't happen.
It's about getting to a place where it no longer has a hold on you.
Women who complete this work often describe feeling lighter. The flashbacks soften. The sense of bracing themselves every time the memory surfaces begins to fade.
They feel more present with their baby. More settled in themselves. More like the person they recognise again.
Practically, Healing Can Look Like...
A Note on Faith
For some women, faith is the very thing that makes birth trauma harder to talk about.
Sometimes church spaces don't always know what to do with mental health struggles. People mean well, but the responses can leave you feeling like you should simply pray harder, trust more, or move on faster than your heart is able to.
You may even have found yourself needing medication just to get through the days. If that's part of your story, please hear this clearly: there is no shame in that. Sometimes survival is the first step toward healing.
I understand this personally as well as professionally. Some parts of this work are deeply personal to me.
Over the years as a midwife, I have witnessed births that were genuinely frightening experiences for the women involved. Moments where things felt out of control. Moments where hope and fear sat side by side in the same room. Those experiences can leave deep marks.
But from a place of faith, I do not believe that God intends for women to remain trapped in trauma. Healing matters to Him. Your wellbeing matters to Him. The story of your birth - even the painful parts - are not beyond His care.
Often the most meaningful healing begins not by ignoring the pain, but by bringing it gently into the light.
You are allowed to have felt what you felt.
You are allowed to still be feeling it.
And you are allowed to heal.
You might be wondering whether what you're feeling “counts” as trauma.
You might be thinking that other women have had worse births. That you should be grateful your baby is healthy. That too much time has passed and you should be over it by now.
These thoughts are incredibly common after a difficult birth.
But if the memory still brings fear, panic, grief, or a sense of heaviness when you think about it, that matters. Your experience deserves care and attention — no matter how it looked from the outside.
You don't have to keep minimising your own story.
You Might Be Wondering…
Ready to Take the First Step?
You don't need to have everything figured out before reaching out.
You don't need to know exactly what to say.
If something in this page resonated with you, the next step is simply a conversation.
You can send me a message and we can arrange a short, gentle chat to explore whether this feels like the right support for you.
There is no pressure and no obligation - just a chance to talk.
All enquiries are completely confidential. You will always receive a personal response from Hannah.